Communication Games in Marriage

Posted on Apr 22, 2014 in Marriage

Communication is one of the major pillars of a healthy relationship. In a young relationship, both partners usually have a deep interest in each others’ life. This is due to the fact that the infatuation from the beginning of a relationship makes people want to know as much as possible about their partner. However, older couples often assume that they know all there is to know about each other. Some people even choose to ignore certain information shared by their partners, due to the fact that they find it uninteresting or annoying. In order to avoid distancing each other due to lack a communication, a couple needs to put a lot of effort into their communicating skills. There are certain communication games, which even couple’s therapists use, which can help improve the communication in a marriage.

  • Understand each other

The most common communication trap in a marriage is the assumption. You should never assume that you know what your partner is thinking, no matter how many years you’ve been together and how well you think you know your spouse. One of the most common communication games used by couples therapists is role play. In order to play this game, the partners must put each other in their spouse’s position when confronted with common marriage scenarios. By playing this game, a married couple can realize that no matter how well they know each other, they have different perceptions even of the everyday situations.

  • Romantic communication games

Romantic games can be played without the help of a therapist but they can be a little awkward for most people, especially for men. However, there are ways in which you can overcome your emotions and learn how to make simple and heartfelt love declarations. A very simple game would be to make a list of all the things that you love about each other. Do the list in private and plan a romantic moment when you can read the lists to each other. Once you do this game, you can take things to the next level: face each other while holding games and talk about the best part of your relationship and the memories which are the most precious to the two of you.

  • Share the same vision

This is a very childish game yet it is one of the most efficient communication tools for married people. In order to do this you must gather building material which you find around the house such as Lego block, colored pencils, paper and so on. After you gather your material, you sit on the floor, back to back. One of you will start describing a random concept, such as a dream bedroom or the perfect car. Th other partner will have to use his/her building material in order to materialize that concept. When you are done with your concept structure, share it with your spouse and discuss what parts of the description could have been more accurate or why were certain description parts misunderstood. This game will help you find better ways of expressing your thoughts.

Communication games may seem silly and forced if you try them. However, they can be very efficient. If you take them lightly without putting too much pressure, they can be quite entertaining and very efficient.