The Consequences of Permissive Parenting

Posted on Apr 17, 2014 in Parenting

Permissive parenting is a parenting style in which the parents give too much freedom to the child. This happens because the parents don’t really understand their roles in the lives of the children. In most cases, permissive parents allow the children to do as they wish because they either want to avoid a fight with the children or they just can’t help satisfying even the smallest desires of the children. Today we are going to talk about a few of the consequences of this parenting style and we will also give you a few tips for avoiding this type of parenting.

  • 1. Rebellious behavior

A rebellious attitude is the first sign of a permissive parenting style. Whilst it is true that children often rebel (especially in their teenage years), if these manifestations occur on a regular basis, that means that the child does not recognize the parents as authority figures. It is very important for children to have limitations and to accept the fact that parents set these limitations because they have a better judgement and they wish to protect the children from negative influences or from bad happenings.

  • 2. Selfishness

Children who always get what they want, tend to become very selfish in time. They don’t realize that their parents are making sacrifices in order to satisfy all their demands and even if they realize, they often don’t care because they are used to always getting everything they want. It is very important to teach children to be generous and to be thankful for all the things that they have. Try to teach your child how to spend quality family time without you having to buy his/her love. Invent family games and encourage outside activities in order to teach the child that he/she can have a great time even without expensive toys.

  • 3. Lack of motivation and responsibility

Due to the fact that children who are raised by permissive parents always get what they want, they are under the impression that they deserve everything without making any efforts. This often results in lack of ambition which is reflected in poor academic results. Furthermore, due to the fact that permissive parents don’t teach their children the importance of responsibility, these children are often experiencing problems when they have to be on their own. It is important for parents to understand that they won’t always be there for their children which is why the children must learn to be responsible. In order to do this, you must stop awarding children for breathing and you must make them work for the things that they want. The work doesn’t have to be hard but it is important to teach the children that rewards are associated with effort.

These are the main effects of permissive parenting. In order to avoid having a spoiled, selfish and irresponsible child, you need to stop showering him/her with gifts and start establishing some rules and boundaries. Too much love cannot hurt a child but when that love is manifested irrationally, the consequences can be severe.